"I don't think that being a strong person is about ignoring your emotions and fighting your feelings. Putting on a brave face doesn't mean you're a brave person. That's why everybody in my life knows everything that I'm going through. I can't hide anything from them. People need to realise that being open isn't the same as being weak."

- Taylor Swift

Monday, February 07, 2011

we are all fools in love.

The reason why men are fools in love is because men in highschool are not really men at all, still boys, and they'll remain ignorant, arrogant, immature boys, for the most part, until they're well into their 20's or 30's. They don't understand women, heck, they don't understand themselves. You know how children are so self-obsessed, everything's me me me? I'm not being sexist, but that's how most boys act when they're fifteen or sixteen, which they are now, in my year eleven classes. They don't give a toss that girls have to worry about looks and hair and clothes and periods and getting pregnant and all that, all they care about is how much attention is being paid to them, why they're not getting enough, and pretending they don't like it. The few who break this mould, the perfect, perfect Mr Darcys, the ones that are kind and elegant and handsome and all that turn into Mr Bingleys at the last minute, preferring Miss Pretty-Face Jane to the feisty Lizzy we all think we are.

The reason why women are fools in love is because we fail to recognise that men are neither suitable nor prepared for love when we are all ready to go charging in to the gory world that is french kissing and Valentine's day. Even if we do see it, like I do, we can't resist it. We have hormones and romance novels and bad chick flicks pushing us to do what will inevitably end in a mess of mascara puddles and endless amounts of ice cream.

You can't blame either sex, although to be honest, we all hate men for not freaking growing up when they're s'posed to. Sometimes I think their blatant immaturity, their selfish disdain for the feelings of others and the 'coolness' of the trend to be blantantly disrespectful towards, well, anybody, has less to do with hormones and more to do with the fact that it is simply acceptable in a way that it is and was never acceptable for women to behave in such a manner. There was once a day and age when men were expected to stand up and bow to a lady when she entered a room, be courteous and chivalrous, ladies first, all of that. And because it was expected, few breached it. We are nothing more than sheep following the shepherd of convention.

It's evidence of the sexism of this world. Women are expected to dress up, pluck this, hide that, and men can be basically whatever they want. Sure, we want them to be tanned and ripped to perfection, Mr Darcy and all, but it's okay if you're a farked up asshole who devestates innocent teenage hearts like the Americans bombed Hiroshima, everyone's okay with that, because they'll say that you're 'being a boy' and we're overreacting. Sure, we'll take it. We'll take anything.

As if.

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