desperate.

Now Playing: Heavy In Your Arms (C-Berg Remix) by Florence + The Machine (whispering like it's a secret only to condemn the one who hears it with a heavy heart)

What exactly constitutes as desperate?

I think I'm right in saying that most girls I know would like to get married and start a family one day. I think I'm also right in saying that most boys - if not now, eventually - would like to do the same. There's nothing wrong with that - it's the most normal, boring, pedestrian suburban thing to do, to become like our normal, boring, pedestrian, suburban parents. It's evolution, human nature. It's continuing the species, as it were.

So what exactly is wrong with wanting that? Of course I want a relationship, and of course I'm quite bitter that nothing's worked out yet. But this isn't normal or natural. No. It's desperate, apparently.

It's commonly accepted that teenage boys with ruthlessly pursue teenage girls. The attractive ones are 'just being teenage boys'; the unattractive ones are being 'weird', 'seedy', 'creepy' and...it comes up again...'desperate'. WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY????

This might seem horribly crass and very dismissive of the tummy butterflies and thrills of teenage love, but most teenagers are in relationships for sexual expression. Otherwise people would just be *friends*. Without a relationship, we have almost no means of sexual expression, especially us girls. If we dress up we're sluts, if we flirt we're sluts, if we do things with boys who aren't our boyfriends we're sluts. Basically, if you're a teenage girl and don't suppress every hormonal urge, you're a slut.

It's biologically accepted that adolescence is the transition from childhood to adulthood - from utterly sexless to profoundly sexual. But socially, emotionally...it's all under the carpet.

Why?